Thursday, January 29, 2009
My "Brady Bunch" Life
After looking at so many sites I have really enjoyed reading about not only the craft, projects, etc but also about everyone's family so I thought I would include more family stuff in mine as well!
December 2005: At this time in my life I was a single mother with twin daughters. They turned 7 at the end of December 2005. I met Alex (my wonderful fiance) 2 days before Christmas. Alex was a father of twin boys who were 2 1/2 at the time. (When I first met Alex, I was not really interested in him but we had something in common with having twins and this kept the conversation going!) It was not long (about a month later **I know this is crazy BUT we just knew this was the real deal) before we moved in together and began our life.
Now his boys were born prematurely at 27 weeks. They had traveled a long road to get to where they were. Dominick was better then Justin. He has global delays and autistic tendencies (sensory issues, occupational issues, etc). Justin on the other hand had an IVH the day he was born which caused major brain damage. His main issues are hydrocephalus which requires a shunt, he is still fed throuh a feeding tube in his stomach, he has CP, autism, and sensory integration disorder. He does not walk or talk.
Not long after Alex and I met the boys biological mother left them with us. We did not hear from her or know where she was for 8 months. This is when I officially became a Mother with TWO sets of twins.
It is now January 2009 and we still have custody of all 4 children. The boys bio mom is not really involved (which is sad, but really best for the boys at this point in her life) so I am Mom and I love being so with all my heart. I CAN'T imagine my life without them. We hope to one day (after our marriage) for Alex and I to adopt each other's children legally. Alex has also been the only Dad in my girls life and he has provided and sheltered for them perfectly!
Time and time again people ask me if I am sure that I want to marry Alex and take on the responsibilities that lie ahead of me in regards to being a Mother with disabled children and I guess from an outsiders view this is a rational question (and I always reply nicely, you know us Southern girls) but inside I am thinking, "How could anyone ask this?" In my heart I have 4 children, I am luckier then many because I only had to go through morning sickness and getting HUGE, once....not twice!
Here is my family site that I just started to update family members in New York (yes I am marrying a Yankee with a cute accent--which a lot of Southern girls just find so charming, yea). Feel free to check it out!